Don’t Hold Out With False Hope
Do you rise each morning with the wide-eyed optimism that your child has finally hit that ‘magic’ age where they suddenly become more responsible? If you haven’t taught your child this quality all along, then you are experiencing “false hope.” We all know what false hope means, but we may not be aware we’re practicing it until it’s too late.
Humans have a tendency to continue to hope for things even when no action has been put into place to illicit that desired circumstance or behavior. It’s like looking at a pile of dirty dishes and believing they will clean and put themselves away on their own.
However, when it comes to parenting holding onto false hope can be damaging to our kids. Continuing to watch our children practice poor habits day in and day out won’t change the reality of it, no matter how much we “hope” it will change. This is only compounded when we take false hope a step further and assume they will outgrow it.
Have you latched onto false hope with your parenting techniques? If so, this tool of self-deception may be comfortable for a time, but eventually you will have to wake up to the realities in front of you. If your child hasn’t done his homework without being nagged for an hour beforehand, leaving him to his own devices and hoping he will change is only creating a bigger problem and denying the reality of the situation.