False Hope Can Take You Off Track

Don’t Hold Out With False Hope

Do you rise each morning with the wide-eyed optimism that your child has finally hit that ‘magic’ age where they suddenly become more responsible?   If you haven’t taught your child  this quality all along, then you are experiencing “false hope.”  We all know what false hope means, but we may not be aware we’re practicing it until it’s too late.

Humans have a tendency to continue to hope for things even when no action has been put into place to illicit that desired circumstance or behavior.  It’s like looking at a pile of dirty dishes and believing they will clean and put themselves away on their own.

However, when it comes to parenting holding onto false hope can be damaging to our kids.  Continuing to watch our children practice poor habits day in and day out won’t change the reality of it, no matter how much we “hope” it will change.  This is only compounded when we take false hope a step further and assume they will outgrow it.

Have you latched onto false hope with your parenting techniques?  If so, this tool of  self-deception may be comfortable for a time, but eventually you will have to wake up to the realities in front of you.  If your child hasn’t done his homework without being nagged for an hour beforehand, leaving him to his own devices and hoping he will change is only creating a bigger problem and denying the reality of the situation.

How Reading Can Make You a Super Mom

By Maria M Elaaraj

How can I be a super mom? Don’t we all ask ourselves this question from the minute we get pregnant and feel the soul of our loved one growing inside of us? Personally, when I conceived my first girl I wished someone could provide me with A to Z steps on how to be the best mother in the world but this is impossible. Even child psychologists haven’t agreed on one unique method to raising our children. I have read so many parenting books and what I found is that the general methods are common but when it comes to practicing these methods scientists might disagree. Nevertheless, reading is, in my own opinion, essential for a good parenting adventure. Books will not only tell us how to deal with certain situations but they will help us learn how to find a suitable solution to our child’s case since every child is unique therefore every child needs a different kind of intervention.

So, my number one tip for being a super mom is:


Begin reading from the minute you learn you’re going to be a mother. Fall in love with those parenting books because they might be your only way out. If you’re a new-mom you cannot possibly imagine the twisted situations a child could put you through or go through himself. Therefore, you need to be well prepared. Choose two or three of the most popular parenting books; go through the suggested ideas and explained techniques and see how you can apply what you read to your actual situation.

I will recommend few books: How To Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen so Kids Will Talk by Adele Faber, The Baby Book: Everything You Need To Know About Your Baby from Birth To Age Two by William Sears, The No-Cry Sleep solution: Gentle Ways To Help Your Baby Sleep Through the Night Foreword by William Sears, MD by Elizabeth Pantley, Siblings Without Rivalry: How to Help Your Children Live Together So You Can Live Too by Adele Faber, Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason by Alfie Kohn.

Now after you have read so many books, you will have enough material to allow you to act well under hard circumstances. And as a mother you will be facing many, from the moment you give birth to the second you accompany your child to the altar.

Maria El-Aaraj creator of How To Be Super Mom: http://www.mariasupermom.blogspot.com Writer of parenting articles, recipes and kids crafts. You might be interested in checking one of her most popular articles New-Moms Sleep Well

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Mothers’ Child Custody Rights – Custody Guidelines

By Hera Nelsun

Separation or divorce is a difficult time for parents and children alike. The stress is made even more complicated when there is a child custody fight brewing. If you’re the mother in a child custody battle, don’t assume that you’ll automatically be awarded the right of custody. In fact more and more fathers are seeking and gaining child custody than ever before. If you want to keep custody of your children here are some custody guidelines to help you through the process.

Permanent custody is determined in the final divorce. Until the divorce is finalized child custody is temporary. Many times the mother will be awarded temporary custody but it isn’t necessarily a given. The main consideration in awarding temporary custody is concern for the children’s well-being. This may mean things such as keeping them in the same school, having the same home and in general trying to maintain their lives as normally as possible.

Fight for temporary custody. This is an important guideline because temporary arrangements that are working are often converted to permanent child custody orders. It is paramount that the person seeking custody be the one who is living in the home with the children and is the primary caregiver. This is helpful to winning a child custody case. If you are the one initiating a divorce you can still stay in your home. Seek the advice of a good child custody attorney before taking any action, and attempt to gain temporary custody of your children.

Mothers have traditionally been given custody of their children; however, you should not take this for granted. More and more fathers are seeking child custody than ever before. Keep in mind that even what may seem like an amicable custody case may turn into a battle that you weren’t expecting. You must be prepared as possible for a custody fight.

Mothers need to be aware of their rights as parents and educate themselves on the legal process of custody. Go online to learn as much as you can. Read books, articles, and do online research to arm yourself with information. The best way to prepare for custody is to hire a good child custody attorney. An experienced lawyer knows how to best prepare for many possible situations that could arise in a custody case. Be aware of anything that your former spouse may try to use against you in a legal custody fight. Knowing this will help you and you attorney prepare a proper defense.

If you feel that your former spouse would not make the best custodial parent you need to be able to back that up. Work with your attorney to provide specific reasons why he isn’t the best choice. You may need to give specific information and may need witnesses who have seen certain circumstances with your former spouse.

The best way to be assured of winning child custody is by being prepared. Don’t let the problems of the divorce stand in your way of standing up for your custody rights. The most crucial custody guideline is to make your children’s welfare the priority and you’ll be able to show that you have the best interest of the children in mind. In the meantime you need to be a reasonable parent. Allow visitation with the father and don’t let your own feelings taint those of your kids. The court will respond positively to evidence that you are willing to cooperate with your former spouse.

Discover how Custody X Change can help you stand up for your mother’s child custody rights and find out more child custody guidelines to help your case.

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