False Hope Can Take You Off Track

Don’t Hold Out With False Hope

Do you rise each morning with the wide-eyed optimism that your child has finally hit that ‘magic’ age where they suddenly become more responsible?   If you haven’t taught your child  this quality all along, then you are experiencing “false hope.”  We all know what false hope means, but we may not be aware we’re practicing it until it’s too late.

Humans have a tendency to continue to hope for things even when no action has been put into place to illicit that desired circumstance or behavior.  It’s like looking at a pile of dirty dishes and believing they will clean and put themselves away on their own.

However, when it comes to parenting holding onto false hope can be damaging to our kids.  Continuing to watch our children practice poor habits day in and day out won’t change the reality of it, no matter how much we “hope” it will change.  This is only compounded when we take false hope a step further and assume they will outgrow it.

Have you latched onto false hope with your parenting techniques?  If so, this tool of  self-deception may be comfortable for a time, but eventually you will have to wake up to the realities in front of you.  If your child hasn’t done his homework without being nagged for an hour beforehand, leaving him to his own devices and hoping he will change is only creating a bigger problem and denying the reality of the situation.

Online Activities of Children and Parental Responsibility

By Dennis Soinski

In a recent study on Internet addiction undertaken at the Stanford University School of Medicine, researchers concluded that “The United States could be rife with Internet addicts as clinically ill as alcoholics.”

Activities of Those Addicted to the Internet

What do those who are addicted to the Internet do while online? According to the Stanford researchers, Internet-dependent individuals look at pornography, gamble, visit chat rooms and forums, do online shopping, spend time on special-interest websites, check e-mail, and play video games.

Addiction Horror Stories

Just how serious are Internet-related addictions? Although most of the addiction horror stories I have encountered pertain to the more “typical” addictions such as drug abuse and alcoholism, other Internet-related dependencies such as “video game addiction” are starting to share the headlines. For instance, there’s various stories circulating the Internet about young teens who play online video games 18 or more hours per day.

As disconcerting as this is, the most shocking and disturbing Internet-based addiction story I have ever heard concerns a person who had “forum addiction.” More to the point, in 2005, a 54-year-old male, unable to take a break from his online world, died from starvation. How was this possible you ask? Easy. For 7 weeks before his death, he posted comments into one forum after another every 30 seconds, while refusing to eat.

Should Online Addictive Activities Become Illegal?

Let’s look at the facts. Some Internet users are addicted to blogging, some to forums, and still others to video games. The vast majority of people who go online to post comments on forums, read blogs, or play video games, however, do not get “hooked” on these activities. A similar argument, moreover, can be made for various adult activities such as online sex, porn, gambling. To eliminate the possible danger of addiction to these online activities, should they become illegal?

Responsible Solutions

Obviously, parents who are concerned about their children do not want them to become addicted to video games, blogs, forums, or to drugs, alcohol, or porn for that matter. Keep in mine, however, that the easiest solution is not always the the best or the most responsible. For instance, in the case of addiction to Internet-related activities, the easiest “solution” would be if these online activities did not exist. This, however, is NOT the most responsible response to the problem of online addiction.

Parental Responsibility

Since some filth and garbage do exist online (along with a tremendous amount of healthy, educational, and beneficial information), the major source of responsibility regarding what children view and do online has to come from parents. To drive this point home more strongly consider this. If parents stopped saying “No” to their 5-year-old children, for instance, and simply let them do whatever they wanted, most of these young children would not make it to their 6th birthday. The point: children, especially those who are extremely young, need a lot of guidance by their parents if they are to grow, learn, and develop.

Conclusion

Simply put, parents need to supervise, manage, and monitor the online activities of their children. To help understand this more fully, let’s look at another activity that American children spend a relatively large amount of time doing, namely watching TV. In fact, according to the American Academy of Pediatrics website, children in the US spend approximately 4 hours every day watching TV. While there may be some room for debate about letting children watch TV unsupervised for long periods of time, such is not the case with the Internet. Indeed, with the increasing availability, allure, and seduction of online sex, porn, and gambling, and the multitude of stories about teens and preteens who play online video games many hours per day, however, there is no room for debate about children who spend time online: parents need to be aware of what their children are doing online–period.

Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/441393

See Also Parenting Articles by Dr. Randy Cale at www.TerrificParenting.com

Accept Your Children As They Are

By Arun Kumar Suri

It is quite natural for parents to have all sorts of dreams about their children, more so if they belong to the highly educated and affluent class. Children from such families are exposed to a more favorable environment and as such are more likely to make full use of their talents and skills. But it is necessary to bear in mind that every child is unique and no one is an exact replica of his parents. Some parents tend to get upset when their children do not seem to go along a path they had envisaged. Though genetic factors play a very important role in the personality of an individual, children can vary considerably from their parents in several aspects. A child born to a great scientist may want to become a musician and a child born to a great musician may show more interest in science. Sometimes a child of exceptionally intelligent parents may be of below average intelligence and vice versa.

Many parents commit the mistake of showing special affection towards a particular child- because of his/her looks or intelligence or some special skill. They fail to realize the impact of this bias on the mind of the other children. In such a situation other children may develop inferiority complex and not try to improve themselves. They may also harbor jealousy and/or hatred towards their sibling and also hatred towards their parents. This can lead to many serious problems in the family. On the other extreme a handicapped child may get all the parental attention leaving normal children frustrated and angry. This situation is not easy to handle. A handicapped child certainly needs more attention and parents should try to involve their normal child in the care of the handicapped child without making him feel that he is being neglected. They should try to make him feel important by acknowledging his role in the care of the less fortunate sibling and also for his own achievement.

Another serious mistake committed by parents is comparing their children with children of others. Many parents ridicule their own children telling them they are useless by comparing them to others. They should never do this. The only outcome of such an act is subconscious hatred for parents. Such parents lament that their children are neglecting and ill-treating them during old age not realizing that it was their own making. Parents should always look for positive attributes is children. Every one has both strength and weakness. By focusing or a child’s strength parents can bring the best out of them. This helps is building a stable and enjoyable relationship. It is quite common to see parents proudly announcing the achievements of their children. They even take credit for their children’s achievements. But if one child fails to achieve something does he/she cease to be their child? To sum up parents should give their unconditional love to all their children right from birth. They should give up unrealistic expectations, desist from making sarcastic remarks and help the children to become the best of what they are capable of.

Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/598325

See Also Parenting Articles by Dr. Randy Cale at www.TerrificParenting.com

Super Moms Make Super Kids Which Turn Into Super Citizens

By Lance Winslow

Being a great mom is one of the most important things you can do for the next generation. Great mothers make great children, and those kids grow up to be great citizens. The best moms create kids with high self-esteem, integrity, and they instill in them a sense of dedication, commitment, and perseverance. These kids are able to go on to do great things.

It’s not easy being a super mom, it’s not easy raising kids in a society, and it is amazing how many people screw it up. We should be thankful that in the United States we have so many great mothers, who give of themselves, and sacrifice for their children, and often their children’s friends as well. It’s amazing how many mothers are often “the resident mother” of the neighborhood, when other mothers are busy working, or have a lack of interest in properly raising their own children.

Interestingly enough, every child is slightly different and it is not a one-size-fits-all when parenting our next generation. There is no manual on being a great mother, although there are hundreds if not thousands of books on the subject. But even if someone read all those books, it’s a lot different when you have to do it day in and day out, year after year knowing that if you make a mistake it could affect the child’s future in a very profound way.

We should salute the great mothers of our society and civilization, as they go out of their way to create the super citizens that will lead this great nation forward. I’d like you to take a moment to think about this, and consider how much we owe our moms.

Lance Winslow is a retired Founder of a Nationwide Franchise Chain, and now runs the Online Think Tank. Lance Winslow believes that mom need to watch the diets of their families;

diabetes menu [http://www.type1forum.com]

Note: All of Lance Winslow’s articles are written by him, not by Automated Software, any Computer Program, or Artificially Intelligent Software. None of his articles are outsourced, PLR Content or written by ghost writers. Lance Winslow believes those who use these strategies lack integrity and mislead the reader. Indeed, those who use such cheating tools, crutches, and tricks of the trade may even be breaking the law by misleading the consumer and misrepresenting themselves in online marketing, which he finds completely unacceptable.

Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/2945398

See Also Parenting Articles by Dr. Randy Cale at www.TerrificParenting.com